Stop Trying to Do It Alone

“Many of us learned that keeping busy…kept us at a distance from our feelings…Some of us took the ways we busied ourselves—becoming overachievers & workaholics—as self esteem…But whenever our inner feeling did not match our outer surface, we were doing ourselves a disservice…If stopping to rest meant being barraged with this discrepancy, no wonder we were reluctant to cease our obsessive activity.” 
― Maureen Brady, Beyond Survival: A Writing Journey for Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse

Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

“I’m self-sufficient, I don’t need anyone, and I can get things done on my own without any help.” If this sounds familiar, you’re probably jeopardizing your mental health and heading down the path to burnout.Yet if you can acknowledge that doing everything yourself is neither sustainable nor desirable, you’ll be able to make some corrections  and improve both your mental and physical health.I know it can be scary to admit you can’t do everything yourself, because I’ve been there. I remember worrying: What if no one believes me when I finally profess how hard it is to do everything myself? Maybe I’m just a complete wuss. If I come clean about how hard this is, am I negating my accomplishments? What if no one wants to help me?We also live in a society that makes one feel weak if he/she asks for help. 

But, there is strength in numbers. Deuteronomy 32:30 implicitly suggests that if God permits, then we are 10 times more likely to succeed if we go with someone else than if we were operating in isolation. Do not ignore the power of two. In Matthew 18:19 Jesus confirms the importance of two by stating “that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. It is self-explanatory; your prayers are more likely to be answered when you have someone agreeing with you. It is the clearest signal yet that we must stop trying to do it alone.

Moses never tried to do it alone; he worked with his brother Aaron. David, even though he was a great warrior, had the company of 400 men when he was in the wilderness fleeing from Saul. Paul’s ministry was aided first by Barnabas and then by Timothy. All of these biblical examples are reminders that the principle of Ecclesiastes 4:9: two are better than one holds true. Therefore, magnify your success by identifying like minded people to partner with.

Life Application: Whatever your pursuit, Identify like-minded people to partner with and agree with in prayer.

Prayer: Dear Lord, I admit that I have tried to do everything by myself for various reasons. I don’t want to be a bother and neither do I want to feel insufficient. I pray that you will help me to find the right persons who are able to assist me in the various things that I have going on in my life. Help me to let go and allow you to direct every aspect of my life. In Jesus name, amen.

Published by Stacyan Rowe

I am an avid reader who enjoys exploring the world through words. I am a Christian, wife and mother to two amazing boys. I am an English teacher at the secondary level. I love writing and having meaningful discussions.

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